Having a baby? Read our top tips to help your new family cope

 In Family Counselling, Relationship Counselling

If you’ve just had a baby or are expecting the pitter patter of tiny feet soon, you may not be prepared for all the changes that come when you go from being a twosome to a trio!

Even if this isn’t your first baby, extending your family can bring many challenges that you and your partner need to work through to make sure that you’re all ready for the exciting journey that is having children. Read on for our top tips for dealing with new babies.

Be ready for change

When a baby comes into a couple’s life, everything is intensified: the good, the bad and the ugly!

Having a baby is often a magical and massively bonding time of incredible new experiences. However, with little time and energy for anything other than the needs of a new baby, unaddressed issues can quickly grow into overwhelming problems if they are not worked out beforehand.  The best thing you can do is be prepared for this change! 

Be prepared

Navigating through the more challenging parts of parenting will be much easier if you have made preparations.

Talk through with your partner how things might change in your relationship, and how you will deal with any issues when the time comes. For example, how do you share out the household responsibilities like food shopping, laundry and cleaning? Perhaps one of you did all that before, but with the baby bringing a whole new ‘to do’ list, how can you redistribute those tasks between you more evenly?

From lovers to parents

Both men and women can experience a difficult transition when the baby comes. Before the new arrival, they had their best friend, biggest supporter, and devoted lover all to themselves.

Remember to make time for each other, to go on a date or simply spend some time alone. In the midst of all the new baby excitement, try to keep your connection alive as partners as well as parents.

Keep your love strong

Stephen Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highy Effective Families, says:

‘The greatest thing you can do for your children is love your partner.’

By working to keep your couple relationship strong, you’re creating a secure and stable home for your family and modelling the type of relationship you would want for your child.

It’s the love and connection between you that will carry you through the ups and downs of parenting, so make time to maintain your couple relationship and to communicate your needs to one another.

Get help with parenting

Need more support preparing to become parents? Talk to us at Relate North Hampshire today

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